Sara asked:

I would like to know more about how you and Fern met. Also, do your families know that you are ttc? If so, are they supportive?

Fern and I met in college. I saw her from across the green on my very first day of my first year and I was instantly obsessed. I thought she was beautiful and I quickly funneled my energies into growing a crush. I definitely conducted myself similar to how a 14 year old might conduct herself in regards to the crush - all my friends knew that I hearted Fern, I cut out Fern’s picture from the campus newspaper when she was interviewed and hung it in my dorm room, ahem…there might have been a poem in my journal about her, I watched her perform in her a capella group with stars in my eyes, I giggled with my friends when she’d walk near us. It was fun. Oddly, I can’t remember when we formally met, but it was sometime in the fall of 1996.

We didn’t start dating for a few years, though. You see, Fern was a fancy, cool senior when I was a first year and we never got to know each other while at college together. I hung onto my crush in a less obsessed way over the years, dated other people and figured the crush would fully fade one day. When I was a junior my college choir went on tour. We needed a little more umph so our conductor invited Fern to come on tour with us since she’s a very lovely, strong singer and was living nearby. That was January 1999 and we’ve been together ever since!

Both of our families know that we’re TTC and both are very, very excited. Fern’s mom is particularly excited and is pretty much ready to retire the second we give birth and move in with us and the baby. She’s been known to bounce a little while saying, “babybabybabybabybaby!!!” She’s even helping us out a little financially which is such a relieve especially since we don’t know how long we’re going to be trying. My mom was extra excited when we were going to use my brother as a sperm donor. I don’t think she’s disappointed with Sage but she’s less thrilled beyond believe now. She was really disappointed when my bro backed out (so were we!). We’re lucky to have such supportive families.